Keeping Our Glasses Clean
The Wellness Compass Initiative is our partner community wellness initative. Each week we write a column for Wellness Compass and we are pleased to share it here on our Living Compass site.
Small daily habits make a difference. For example, every morning, we both clean our glasses. It’s just something we do as part of our morning routine. Doing so allows us to see the world a little more clearly. If we miss a day, we probably won’t notice it that much, but if missing a day turned into missing a week, our view of things would undoubtedly become a bit clouded.
Practicing gratitude is like this. Practicing it each day allows us to see the world more clearly. Neglecting to do so over time clouds our vision, and we may wonder why the world looks a bit dull or dark.
There are several ways we can practice an “attitude of gratitude.” Some people find it helpful to keep a regular gratitude journal. We have several friends who are doing this as a practice for the entire month of November. In honor of Thanksgiving being this month, they started on the first of the month by writing down and/or posting on social media three to five things for which they are grateful. Their practice deepens as they commit to not repeating anything the whole month, instead naming three to five new things each day. This discipline reminds them, and those of us who are seeing these daily posts, to notice and name the little things that happen each day that are so easy to take for granted.
As marriage and family therapists, we know how crucial it is to practice gratitude in our relationships with family, friends, and colleagues. Each expression of gratitude puts a little air in the tires of the person receiving our appreciation and enhances our connection as well. When relationships are distant or conflicted, all parties usually report that they no longer feel loved and appreciated by the other person. At some point, they realize that the lenses through which they view the other person have become clouded with hurt and resentment.
It takes awareness and intention to begin to change this cycle, but it is possible. Often, the best way to start the change is to acknowledge one’s own part in the pattern.
Nurturing our spirituality is another way to enhance our practice of gratitude. All spiritual traditions focus on the importance of regularly offering gratitude for the many gifts of this life and of the created world.
To focus on gratitude is not to ignore the incredible suffering of the world. In fact, a mature spirituality contains both the capacity to acknowledge and commit to the relief of suffering, and, at the same time, to committing to recognize and share gratitude.
We are grateful to be able to take some time off starting next week, and so this column, and the podcast that accompanies it, will return right after Thanksgiving. Until then, let’s all work to keep our glasses clean so we can see all that we have to be grateful for.
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In addition to this column, there is also an episode of the Wellness Compass podcast based on this column. You can listen in your favorite podcast app and at www.WellnessCompass.org/podcast
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